She was born with her majesty, as a member a decent and noble family. Her father was Khuwailid Ibn Asad Ibn Abdul Uzzah Ibn Qusay, Ibn Kilab Al Qursyiyah Al Asadiyah.
She was born at 15 years before the Elephant Year (the year when the King Abraha from Yemen invaded Mecca to destroy Kabah).
She grew up in the noble family , she became an intelligent and noble personality.
People of Quraisy known her as a smart and steadfast woman with good manner. Many men were sympathetic to her.
She married to Abu Halah Ibn Zurarah at Tamiimi and blessed with two sons, Halah and Hindun. After he passed away, she then married to Atiq Ibn A'id Ibn Abdullah al Mahzumi. But they were divorce after a few time.
Lots of the nobleman of Quraisy intended to marry her. But she refused due to her concern to raise and educate her childrens. She also gave a priority toward her business. So that she gained succsess in her business.
She looked for a business manager and heard about a young man who had honest, truthful and nobel nature, Muhammad Ibn Abdillah. So se asked him to run her business along with her assistant Maisara.
She entrusted her merchandishes to Muhammad , that exceeds what she has entrusted to others. Muhammad agreed to trade them, and he returned so many profits to her. She was impressed with his skill to trade. But morever she impressed with his manner.
She then felt a feeling she never had to others. Such a special feeling between man and woman. But she wonder if there was any chance a man like him to accept a 40 years old lady?
And what the refused Quraisy nobleman will say?
Through her bestfriend Nafisah Binti Munabbih , she expressed her heart desire and Muhammad accepted it. Nafisah then informed her about his acceptance, and at the same time Muhammad went to his uncles to inform this good news.
So Abu Thalib and Hamzah Ibn Abdul Muthalib went to Khadijah's uncle, Amru Ibn Asad to propose her . People said he gave her an amount of twenty young camels as her dowry. That show us he was a succesful trading manager in his youth.
This noble marriage teach us that , choosing of a lifepartner should be based on the nobilty and good manners. Through these nature, a marriage can be expected as imperish realtionship based on love and respect between each others.
She then show us a quality as a sincere heart-loving- supportive wife toward her husband. When the walimah held, she open her house door for Muhammad family. Including a lady , Halimah As Sadiyah who was a wet nurse (a mom who was breastfading, but not his genuine mother ) to her husband. She then handed on Halimah with 40 lambs as her prise for breastfading and taking care of her husband Muhammad in his childhood.
When Muhammad expected to have Zaid Ibn Haritsah as his assistance, she gave him. Later, when Muhammad intended to addopt Ali Ibn Abu Thalib to ease the financial burden of his poor uncle, she greeted him happily and provide a special room for Ali, so he can imitate the noble manners of her husband, Muhammad.
Allah blessed their marriage with much of joy and prosperity. And blessed them six sons and daughters. Al qasim, Abdullah, Zainab, Ruqayyah, Ummu Kultsum and Fatimah.
Muhammad who since his youth didn't like the hustle and vices of his people into idolatry and commited adultery , more often solitude and escape from the hustle.
During his marriage with Khadijah, he ussualy spend a month in a year to solitude high on the mountain Nuur, in a cave name Hira. Khadijah as a supportive wife always give her trust to her husband. But based of her love and care, when Muhammad spent longer time in Hira rather then ussual, she sometimes sends a trustworty assistance to ensure that her husband was fine and not run out of supplies.
One day, when Muhammad stayed on the cave Hira, a beautiful man came to him and introduced himself as Jibreel, the Angel, a Messenger of Allah. Jibreel conveyed the revelation of God in form of a command "IQRA!" as contained in the surah Al Alaaq.
And Jibreel informed him, that since that day, he choosed as Allah's prophet to convey HIS messages toward his people and the entire human afterward.
In his shocked and confusion, Muhammad came back home to Khadijah and asked her to to cover him. "Cover me, please cover me.." he wishpered.
After received an explanation and saw her husband worried about, she then with her big heart, encouraged her husband and said :
"My dear Husband, Allah will never harm you since you are a trustworthy person. You connected the ties, symphatize the orphans, and defending the right. Allah will protect us, O Abu Qasim, Cheer up yourself O my uncle's son , and encourage your heart.
By Allah that my soul is in His hands, I really wish you would be The Prophet of this people".
|
pict from www.geni.com |
So the heart of Rasulullah ben calmed of the justification and support of his loving wife.
But that wouldn't be enough for a smat -wise wife like Khadijah. She then went to meet her Uncle's son, Waraqah Ibn Naufal, a Christian preacher . She told him what had happened to her husband.
So nothing came out from his mouth except the words "Qudus..qudus... by the One in who Waraqah's soul is in His hands... if what you told me was true, so indeed Namus Al Kubra has came to him. As well as he came to Moses, Jesus and Noah directly"
After that, Waraqah (who at that time was blinded due to his eldery) came to Rasulullah and said
"By the One, to whom my soul is in His hands, verily, you are , is a true prophet to this ummah (people). They will belie you, hurt you, fight you and throw you out of this country.
If only i still alive when the day comes, i will be with you to help the Deen of Allah " said Waraqah.
He then got closser to kiss Rasulullah's forehead.
Rasulullah (PBuH) then asked "Will be they throw me out ?"
Waraqah answered "Right, No one ever conveyed the messege like you did, except they will againt him. (Like Moses, Jesus and Noah). If only i still alive in that time..if only i can..."
And no longer after that, Waraqah passed away.
Khadijah, after heard the speech of Waraqah, she believed in to Allah and His Messenger. She choose to steadfeast her heart , since that time, she was the one to whom Rasulullah comes after every threats, disruptions in his steps to spread the deen of Allah.
No sadness, nor rejection, disbelieving accepted by Rasulullah, except Khadijah standing upright behind him , giving her full support. She become his heart tranqualizer and always remind him that all the people reproaches have no mean before of Allah.
Since that time Rasulallah told Khadijah that the sleeping and having fun time has expired. Means they have to ready for every hardships and trials.
Khadijah never took a step back. She remained steadfast defense of her husband. Even when the threatment of the Quraisy infidels become so toward her husband and the believers.
She sacrified her energy, her wealth and eveything to support her husband's Dawah. No single of complaint word come out from her lips. She was always smiling to strengthen her husband's heart.
For her nobility and all her sacrified, Allah has built in for her a house in Jannah as informed by Jibreel in one hadeeth.
"Oh Muhammad, convey my salaam to Khadijah, and tell her that Allah has built a house from pearls in Jannah for her, where is no sadness nor fatigue in it"
Khadijah passed away in the three years before hijrah. After a longtime boycott by Quraisy infidels.
Her departure curved a deep sadness in the heart of Rasulallah (PBuH) .
Many years later, when Rasulullah and the believers were in Medina, when Islam has triumphed, even when Rasulullah already has wives other Khadijah, He remained remembering her with all of his love for her.
"Allah has never replace me a women rather than Khadijah, She believed me when other has disbelieved me, she trusted me when other has belied me. She gave me her wealth when no one help me. And Allah has blessed me with childreen through her, while no other woman gave me " Said the Prophet.
He said in other hadeeth:" The best woman (in the world) was Maryam Bint Imran (the mother of jesus) and the best her descendant was Khadijah Bint Khuwailid"
pict from www.ciibroadcasting.com
Masha Allah, May Allah blessed us with the good nature and personality like the best woman, the role model for Muslimah, Khadijah Bint Khuwailid
aameen
Surabaya Oct 11th 2016